Usually I would write about all the new year’s resolutions that I have like every other person, but instead, I wanted to talk about how shitty 2019 has been and what I plan to do in 2020 to make up for that!
2019 I went through a lot mentally and physically that seen me bed bound, riddled with infections, pain, reactions to medications and A LOT of toxic family members that caused me grief. We did however manage to attend the GetYourBellyOut charity ball where I volunteered and did the photography for the evening which I thoroughly enjoyed! We also went to the Enchanted Forest event with complimentary tickets which was lovely and the lights are gorgeous! The most awful parts were going onto antidepressants that made me severely sick and unfortunately we had a miscarriage. However it also gave me luck and I was finally put on the waiting list for wisdom teeth removal and to have my tonsils removed!
Financially it has been the toughest last few months I have ever experienced. We also almost lost the house and our gorgeous dogs. Luckily we are still here but have dreams of moving out this year as not only is the soundproofing terrible, I also have a really disrespectful neighbour who keeps having parties that terrifies the dogs and keeps us awake right through until the next morning. I cut off quite a lot of people and it has done us the world of good – I don’t feel so stressed anymore and don’t have to be treated badly anymore!
I also raised almost £600 for The Purple Wings Charity by being sponsored to do a calendar photoshoot to raise awareness of ostomies! I also collected donations for The Street Friends Helping The Homeless Aberdeen and we go there tomorrow again to drop of the last of what I have managed to collect (HUGE thank you to the community for helping me achieve this.)
So moving onto 2020.. of course I have a few nasty surgeries to have and procedures BUT with GOOD outcomes (hopefully!) I have said to myself that I will make up for all that lost time not being able to see friends and being stuck at home. We have the GetYourBellyOut ball in April to look forward to and hopefully we will also be going to the sea world in Birmingham whilst we are down there! I plan on taking my camera with me a lot more whenever I am out the house – the amount of pretty pictures I could have taken in 2019 would have been fab but I forgot my camera every time! I absolutely plan on a weekend or week down to Glasgow to see one of my best friends. We are also going to be attending the Purple Wings Charity Ball as we missed last years ball.
I also have made it an essential to save and get my passport so I can go abroad once or twice with my friend who models and can take a plus one! Unfortunately I will be selling my beautiful fish tank as I can no longer afford to keep it but the money will be put to good use and pay off some debts. I also have challenged myself to clear out my wardrobes of things I no longer wear either due to they don’t fit anymore or I just never wear them! We have some stoma supplies to donate to The Jacobs Well Appeal too so if you have any spare stoma supplies sitting around that you can no longer use – that’s the best place to send them to! We got a spa day voucher for our christmas so looking very forward to that after my birthday and a little scope around the shops to see what is on sale, I love a good bargain. One of my best friends gets surgery for an Ileostomy this month so will be making sure I go in to visit as much as I can!
So my main goals for 2020:
- Move house
- Get a part time job
- Go on holiday
- Pay off debt
Here’s to another year of being stoma confident and raising awareness!