Life With A Stoma, Product Reviews

ModaVi Bag Review

This week I was sent samples of the new ModaVi bags to try from Pelican Healthcare! As promised, I would try them and write my review on my blog as well as sending feedback through the feedback link.

How do they feel?

Honestly the fabric feels amazing and soft, like suede! The flange is also super nice on the skin and very comfortable. They feel very light on the stomach when the bag is full too and the adhesive caused no issues and in fact, felt so lovely to wear around my stoma and on my paristomal skin. They are also fantastic to look at and definitely gives you a lot more confidence!

Flaws?

So for me, I found a few flaws with this bag (this is personal opinion and not the same for everyone!) I really do not like how the opening for drainage is at the bottom. Its really messy and fiddly because in order to clean it fully you have to open it at the bottom then stick tissue all inside a good few times before you can roll it back up again, a similar opening design as the Salts bags. When unrolled to go and empty, there was poo everywhere and leaking out the sides so my fingers got covered every time. I also didn’t like the flappy part at the top of the bag which is used to view the stoma underneath as it dangled around a lot. Super handy though, I admit, for being able to get a good clear look at your stoma and it also folds up for when wearing a Bikini or something similar! I also found that after showering, it peeled away but that could purely be because I am pregnant and have a lot more curve on my paristomal skin and may not be due to the actual flange itself so do bare that in mind when you have read this!

Over all the aesthetic of the bag is perfect and I couldnt fault that at all but practically it just didn’t work for me. The flange is the best part, due to how healthy it made my skin and it just felt so good whilst on!

I still definitely prefer the opening draining design on the sensura mio bags by Coloplast as they have an extra part where the poo runs down and its so easily wipeable and takes a lot less time, toilet roll and no fiddling about what so ever. As always, different bags work differently on every ostomate so please do not be put off from trying them!

Thankyou so much Pelican Healthcare for sending me them and so quickly too! The bags I have left over will be donated to The Jacobs Well Appeal.

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The Highs And Lows In Pregnancy

Pregnancy is one of those experiences that unless you experience it, you don’t REALLY understand it. The good and bad thing is that it is different for so many!

Many women find that falling pregnant doesn’t ‘just happen’ and it can take a few tries and losses to finally get far along enough to feel that “safe zone”. If you are high risk and have lost before, you will find that each milestone feels like a huge achievement. As each day, week and month goes by you still feel anxious, scared, nervous, excited and have a sense of wonder for what the future holds for you as a first time mum.

For me, the first milestone was 12 weeks because I have never, ever gotten that far before. Then came 20 weeks where we also found out the gender of our baby and had the babies weight and organs checked, all of which came back 100%!! It was a huge shock for us due to us both being chronically ill, we worried something would happen or be passed onto the baby so we were super chuffed to hear all is well and a VERY strong heartbeat! Now, at 21 weeks my next milestone is going to be 24 weeks and I feel that at that one I can fully breathe and relax a little bit better without so much worry.

So what have the highs and lows been for me? There has been so many, just to list a few:

  • Losing friends – it is true what they say that when you become pregnant, you realise who is really there for you. One of my friends of years completely blocked and removed me over night. It still hurts to this day but you do learn to come to terms with losses of friendships over time!
  • Feeling the baby kick – it feels bizarre! But it is SO lovely to wake up in the morning by little baby kicking away letting me know they are awake!
  • The hot flushes – oh. my. goodness. They come out of nowhere and can last upto a few hours!! The room can be freezing due to windows open and the fan on the highest setting and I will still feel too hot! Eventually it does settle with some paracetamol and an ice pack.
  • The hunger – this is a funny one! You eat and eat and EAT and you still don’t feel full, only when you feel the indigestion pain starting and the sick burps from your body letting you know that “girl you have to stop!!”
  • The amazing support – you connect with your friends and family in a much different way than before. Especially those who have had children of their own as its nice to have something in common. For friends who haven’t had kids yet, its nice to be able to share this experience with them!
  • The fatigue – this part is probably the worst. As I have said previously, 10 years of chronic illnesses has not prepared me for how tired you become when pregnant. Before I would laugh it off when people would tell me how tired you get when carrying! Naps have become my daily routine and really do help.
  • Looking at baby clothes/items!! – looking at all the cute items and clothing you can get for your baby is the best feeling ever! Everything is so dinky and cute! It makes you that more excited for the arrival of your baby.
  • Blockages/constipation – this has been super difficult! Just a few days ago, I had a really bad blockage and was vomiting real hard. I was super close to going to hospital but eventually after sipping on diluted laxatives from 6am, it eventually did clear. The constipation makes my stoma quite swollen so sometimes it can be painful however having an Ileostomy means there are now nerve endings so you really don’t feel much apart from pressure and swelling which is like a tightness.
  • Lastly (this one is very dependant on you and your pregnancy) the pain – luckily my crohns hasn’t been too bad but everything else has not been so kind on my body! I was diagnosed with PGP (pelvic girdle pain) which is super painful along side having Hyper Mobility Syndrome – my joints dislocate and pop back into place almost daily, sometimes multiple times per day. So I have to rest quite a lot! All it takes is a sneeze or cough and my hip clicks and pops.

It’s been really lovely to document my pregnancy journey not only here, but over at Trio Healthcare too where I talk about how pregnancy has been with a stoma. When I first became an ostomate, there was no blogs or information available about pregnancy with an ostomy and so, I never knew what to expect or any advice on how to cope with things! I hope by sharing my experiences, that it helps anyone out there with an ostomy feel reassured and have some advice on becoming an ostomy mum! To start with, I was so worried about how it would affects my stoma and my chronic illnesses but in time like with most things, you learn to adapt and cope with what your body throws at you. You learn to grow through your pain and bad experiences and turn them into something good! My number 1 advice would be is to listen to your body, so often we push ourselves to do that bit of housework or go for a walk when our body feels ready to collapse with tiredness! Rest is so important.